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Which scenario does more damage to a relationship...
A guy having sex with a female other then his girl, on the side, but still giving his girl "110%"
OR...
A female talking to a guy on the side with no intentions of having sex with him, but giving him more attention then she is giving her boyfriend?
Feel free to give your input in the comments.
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18 comments:
They're equally damaging in my opinion. Physical and emotional cheating are the same levels of unforgivable in my book.
So what, he's still giving 110%? There still some percent she's not getting. And since when was cheating okay as long as you still gave your all to the person being cheated on?
never. just asking peers for answers to an age-old question. it was brought up on a forum site i'm on, so i figured "i have some pretty intelligent friends...let's ask what THEY think."
What good is 110 percent if you're cheating?
This is the shit I'm talking about about, man....the fuck?
Well to answer your question...The first one is more damaging...It's the physical aspect that makes it cheating...You basically have this girl on the side because her sex is better than your gf's...And the aftermath is so much more troubling than a guy she spends more attention...Sex is a big slap in the face...
To be honest, if I had to choose between the two I would say that talking to another man/woman with no intentions of having sex is worse. There's something about knowing your significant other actually has feelings for someone other than you. Its like, "damn, what am I doing wrong?" Both scenario's are unacceptable, no doubt. Ultimately, he/she is wrong for cheating wheather it be physically or emotionally.
"There's something about knowing your significant other actually has feelings for someone other than you. Its like, "damn, what am I doing wrong?"
Word...that shit is a killer.
It's 60/40 to me.
* Physically cheating with another person can be earth shattering to your other half. When you're in a relationship, you're suppose to give all parts of you to him or her. Sex is suppose to be something meaningful. What is it to her if you're going to share her gift to someone else. Sex is something you can share with her that no one else can have from you.
*Emotionally cheating can be upsetting too if you look at it from a guys' point of view. In my opinion, men (not boys) are more emotional when it comes to women. They just wont show it like women do. To have a great communication with someone other than your significant other would bother anyone. It's like you want to ask that person (Are you happy with our relationship?).
At least she's not having sex with the guy. The dude is going all out and commiting to the act. Either way...they're both are not happy with something in the relationship.
(excuse my long comment. I'm passionate about subjects like this)
i agree, they're equally damaging but a guy having sex with a female other then his girl, on the side is worse. cheating is cheating babe, no doubt. it doesn't make the situation any better, even IF you're still giving your girl 110%. sharing you sex with someone other than your partner defeats the entire purpose of a relationship.
love this post!
i'm loving the fact that people are really responding...i'm going to have to do posts like this WAY more often. tell your friends!!! LOL
def knowing that your other half has feelings for someone else! I mean to some people sex can be nothing but still may be damaging to a partners trust but deff having feeling over lost is a killer!
I think my whole point..Is why the fuck is there someone else in the picture, period?
Like, I'm baffled at the stupidity of people.
i think for a dude, its worse if she has sex with someone else, especially if you have feelings for her. i dont think her giving more time would hurt the dude cus he would eventually preoccupy himself with his music career and district of caylumbia 2. and they would fade away into a less painful breakup as opposed to her sharing her body with someone else.
LMAO @ Cayan subliminally sliding himself into the male position of the situation
Interesting.
I'd say they are both significantly damaging to a relationship, but they hit on different aspects.
Sleeping with somebody else means the loyalty, trust, and honesty is lost.
For me, those three things are vital in a relationship.
But, giving another guy more attention is just as damaging. You innevitably lose the same things.
I feel as though the second senario is more damaging because if your in a relationship, then that person should be receiving your undivided attention. I feel as though it is slightly ok to cheat on your spouse but still give your spouse 110%. You can cheat on someone and the person who was cheated with doesn't have to mean anything to you but they just happened to be that cute at the time. At night you still go home to the person you love the most and give your all to that person because they are there for you as well.
Neither... Cheating is one thing but lying another. There is no such thing as 110% and no one gives 100% of themselves anyway. The trick is to love yourself more than anyone else...
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